All of this is well said. Thoughts I had:
I would say that weak and passive are not even inherently synonymous with being a victim.
Imagine one was kidanpped and held for ransom for a month. You could have tried your best to resist and escape yet failed. Perhaps you did escape and kicked the kidnapper's ass and made him cry. Either way, you're still a victim of a crime; a victim of a transgression.
Additionally, I don't see "victim" as a binary status. If to be a victim is to have been transgressed, the transgression doesn't become erased from history because one no longer feels negatively impacted by it. Or that is up to the person.
I always found the term "survivor" to be strong language for overcoming that which would not have potentially led to death. But that might just be semantics.
"Sorry for us" is to me, pity. Nobody wants to be pitied. Perhaps a handful. Empathy and understanding will suffice but I think a lot of people don't know the difference because of malingering old cultural norms