I find it interesting that “victim mentality” exists in our cultural lexicon but “perpetrator mentality” does not.

Moreover, there’s “daddy issues” to describe women that behave in ways men disapprove but not “mommy issues” toward men.

Or how there’s a ton of derogatory words for a sexually promiscuous woman, but far less and none that are equivalent in usage and detriment for men.

There’s no such thing as a “victim mentality” but according to psychology, there is trauma stemming from cruelty or neglect, which can manifest in the person demonstrating learned helplessness as a self-protective coping mechanism. Usually the former begets the latter.

We find being victimized and suffering long-term impact or being neglected in profound ways as to be incapacitated far worse than being a perpetrator.



Abril Garrido Chivato

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